Tag Archive: age


The People We Were

I miss the way we used to talk all the time
About nothing in particular
Just our daily lives

All those years ago I guess I was blind
To the comfort it brought
I now wish I could find

I miss our days that went of script
Those mini adventures
That went downhill quick

Before we got bogged down with the pressures of age
When our days were ours
And the nights would fade

I miss our club and it’s almost daily meetings
The 6 bottles of wine
That often saw us sleeping

The youngest old wives the world has ever known
Wherever we were
That place could be home

I miss all these things but the memories I hold
Of the people we were
And the stories now told

For no matter my age or who I may miss
I know they’re still there
To help me reminisce

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Standing Still

 

Time is standing still yet the world carries on
Around me pictures change and gather dust
Unable to maintain the days that I still see
When trapped in a mind I no longer trust

Would if I could go back live in reality once more
See what a mirror holds with unguarded eyes
As if a match once struck would hold constant light
Enough to wash away this practised disguise

In such a moment would all around me change
Transported from the past into today
Or would it’s dust simply move from it to me
Revealing an old man who couldn’t see his age

Mid-life crisis

Don’t panic I am not having one just yet.

 

My question is simple, around what age are you deemed to be having a mid-life crisis when you are just acting mental???

 

I say it’s a simple question as surely the answer is when you reach the middle of your life? However this would mean knowing when that was going to happen! For example I don’t think anyone would have said Kurt Cobain was having a mid-life crisis at 13 (well possibly Courtney Love but she doesn’t count) and likewise if someone lived till 106 then they couldn’t have one until they were 53 which is surely too late?

 

If you ask me (not that anyone did) you have to be older than 37 but younger than 50. I have no idea why that particular age range as to be fair I could easily have picked 36 to 49. But as some sort of justification

 

  1. 37 is far enough past 20 that you are talking in decades since your early 20’s and not years
  2. At 37 you are more likely to me the parent of a teenager than dating one
  3. 37 is still young enough that you could go completely mental and not have to worry about heart problems or breaking a hip
  4. When you reach 50 you definitely have fewer years till retirement than you have already worked
  5. A 50-year-old in a convertible just somehow looks wrong (although we all still wish we owned the car)
  6. Every year past 37 it seems more and more undignified to be steaming in a pub (not that it ever seems dignified)

 

Having said that it’s more likely that after the age of 50 you will be able to do your mid-life crisis in style. How many 37 year olds have the money in the bank to just ditch their life jump on a plane and become a new age hippie in the Bahamas or the drifter poet in an Italian wine bar. Maybe then the answer is that those people currently at the age of 50 start a mid-life crisis fund to be accessed by the next generation (sort of a pay it backwards idea). That way when it comes around everyone can really just let loose.

 

For me if and when I do have my mid-life crisis (speaking to some of my friends you’d think I’d been having one since I was 20) I want it to be spectacular. None of this just buying a car that makes me look like an aging stoner trying to look “cool” or suddenly quitting my job to follow my life long dream to make it big with my band. I don’t know yet what it will be (I guess that’s the fun) But when it comes I want to be the guy that everyone looks at and say’s “god how embarrassed would you be if that was your dad”

 

Why would I want to be the embarrassing guy? Easy! One of the greatest privileges of age (in my own oh so humble opinion)  is not having to care what people think. Now I am not saying that I overly care now (though this of course does not apply to you my lovely readers) as to be honest I am of the  opinion that if I don’t know you then you don’t know me well enough to have an opinion. But I think with age, judging by observation rather than experience, that you seem to care less about what people think rather than more.

 

I may well have my mid-life crisis in the next 10 years and if this blog still exists then I promise to tell you all about…………

 

(I was going to put a disclaimer down here, something about no offence intended etc etc etc But instead I will credit you all with the knowledge and intelligence to know i am simply talking shit) (Alternatively you tube the disclaimer by the offspring, in fact do that anyway if you haven’t heard it before it funny as…)

Rain drops on glass

Behind a window covered in rain

The old man rests his gaze far away

Not on the houses, hills or roads

Far from the view the window shows

Frail to the eye his health now poor

To those looking in he’s sleeping for sure

But in his mind where he now thrives

He’s young again and full of life

To see him smile you may think him confused

No words spoken to present any clues

Yet far from the body now broken by time

His lost love still lives and with him she dines

Decades can pass as rain drops on glass

Streams slowly merge as he looks through his past

Old friends visit and with him they stay

Though passed long ago their features remain

Never alone when in this world he walked

Where he resides now his past still talks

Behind a window covered in rain

Sits a young man contemplating his day